- by Andy Ho
I recently caught up with a fellow Asian
American friend whom I grew up with and is now a programmer with Facebook.
Facebook went public as a company earlier this year, and many of its employees
did very well as a result.
My friend, who wishes to remain
anonymous, had the fortune of receiving company stock worth $1 million as part
of the Facebook IPO [initial public offering].
What is more remarkable is him and his wife's decision to give all of it away to
the charity International Justice
Mission (IJM), and in the process, making a
personal dream come true. While his
philanthropy is not exactly on the scale of Mark
Zuckerberg, it’s still amazing and inspiring
to see someone who didn’t grow up with wealth to be able to give away such a
large sum of money. My Facebook friend (FBF) was generous enough to share his story and insights with Asian American Giving.
AAG: When did you first realize that
you were motivated to one day give away a million dollars to charity?
FBF: The million-dollar dream happened
to be during late high school, after my experience with the Navajo. The exact
figure was chosen randomly; "a million" just seemed to me like a
ridiculously large amount, like something I could spend a lifetime trying to
achieve. At the time, I told only two people: my soon-to-be wife, and my youth
pastor. My youth pastor counseled me not to get ahead of myself, to take things
one bit at a time.
AAG: How were your values of
generosity informed as a young person?
FBF: One of the pivotal moments of
my life occurred when helping the Navajo on a reservation in Arizona during a
summer short-term missions trip with my youth group in high school. I had until
that point not encountered real poverty on a personal level. My memories of the
Navajo in mud huts serve as a reminder that, in a way, most of us are the 1% --
not just a select few. One other major influence in my own thinking about
generosity was my experience at Microsoft, where employees give regularly and
passionately to a variety of causes. I once attended an ad-hoc lecture that
Bill Gates delivered to a set of employees where he talked about his concerns
around world health. In those 90 minutes, I remember being deeply impressed by
the depth of his understanding into the issues and the possible solutions. It
inspired me to further think about the difference that each of us can make in
the world both through our finances and through being evangelists about the
causes we support.
AAG: What led you to decide to give
now in your thirties, versus later in life when you are done working or when
your children are grown up?
FBF: There's an opportunity cost to
everything we do. For instance, you can spend a lifetime planning all the great
travel you'll do once you're retired, and only find out late in life that you
don't have the energy and the physical ability to do so. Giving is analogous,
in a way. While it's true that there will always be needs, and that it's safest
to put off the giving until you know for sure that you don't need the money,
waiting has its opportunity cost on real people. We gave now because we had a
windfall of money that we weren't expecting; we gave now because we are so very
grateful for how well things are going in our own lives. When my wife and I
were newly married, we gave IJM $25,000, which for us back then was the
entirety of our savings. It felt great then, just as giving away the million
dollars feels great now. We're sure that others need the money much more than
we do, and we hope to help where we can.
AAG: How did you go about choosing
IJM as your charity of choice?
FBF: My wife and I had been
supporting IJM for over a decade. The thing that appealed most to us about IJM
is that it embraces the cause of social justice -- the idea that the world
isn't fair for many people, and that we can do something to help right the
world. The enormity of global suffering is crushing -- the weight of it all.
But each individual that IJM helps is tangibly, permanently changed in such a
dramatic way. Whenever a slave is freed, or a child is saved from sex
trafficking, it's a life permanently revolutionized. This potential for radical
life change is what drew us to IJM.
AAG: What difference do you hope to
make with your gift?
FBF: Though a million dollars is far
more money than I ever expected to see in my lifetime, it's a mere 3% of IJM's
annual budget. And IJM's a tiny charity compared with most. It's humbling to
realize that, in a way, even a million dollars will hardly make a dent on the
scale and scope of the problem at hand. Our hope is to encourage others to give
generously and to give early. Philanthropy, in the end, will really only work
if we all choose to participate.
AAG: What would you tell others who
have received or will receive a significant windfall of money?
FBF: Giving is a very personal
thing, influenced by upbringing, circumstance, faith, and personality. It's
hard to know what to say to someone who might suddenly find themselves with a
lot of money. I'd wish for everyone to empathize with the weight of suffering
in the world, and to be motivated to give; but it's not clear to me that clever
words or persuasive argument will make a difference here. I guess what I would
say is this: there are very few major decisions in life that you can be sure,
absolutely sure, are right. In the case of my wife and me, we've always found
charitable giving to be one of those rare, absolutely right decisions.
AAG: Thanks for sharing your
insights! Your generosity will bless
many others.